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Judy
 Judy
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Thanks for the Kudos, Flabirder.

In remembrance of my beloved son: "Vaya Con Dios" (Spanish, meaning "Go with God"), by Anne Murray ( https://tinyurl.com/y8nvqqx9 )“God has you in heaven, but I have you in my heart.” ~ by TobyMac ( https://tinyurl.com/rakc5nd )

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Posted : 28/04/2020 9:32 am
wildwest
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flabirder.....so sorry for your losses. I lost a husband, my best friend, as well, it's not easy. I think of him every day

:cowgirl: "For I know that my redeemer liveth, and He shall stand beside me later on." (Lucas in Home Ranch) :gunfightercowboy:

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Posted : 28/04/2020 11:48 am
Cowgirl
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I too am an ex-smoker, who used to smoke a pack a day. I quit cold turkey in 1999. It will be 21 years that I quit. That was on my daughter's birthday.

Every now and then I dream I started to smoke again and was really upset with myself. Anybody else?

In 2018 I lost my brother and my boyfriend in the same year. That was a terrible year for me, although it was not from smoking.

"Keep your 'sites' on The Rifleman"
"The Rifleman hits the 'Mark' every week on abc."
A cowgirl's work is never done.

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Posted : 28/04/2020 12:51 pm
Judy
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... Every now and then I dream I started to smoke again and was really upset with myself. Anybody else? ...
I have not had a dream where I started smoking again, but there are times when I am overwhelmed with a craving for a cigarette. There are other times when I walk pass someone smoking a cigarette, and the smoke smells sooo goood!

I must say that my husband and I did not pick up a cigarette when our son passed away. There were many times when we craved one, but we didn’t give into it. Something that I do to eliminate craving is to inhale a deep breath and then slowly exhale for 5 to 7 seconds. Seriously, it is a huge craving eliminator.

In remembrance of my beloved son: "Vaya Con Dios" (Spanish, meaning "Go with God"), by Anne Murray ( https://tinyurl.com/y8nvqqx9 )“God has you in heaven, but I have you in my heart.” ~ by TobyMac ( https://tinyurl.com/rakc5nd )

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Posted : 29/04/2020 8:14 am
wildwest
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for you not to smoke when your son passed away I would say you have licked it. I pray every day is a little better for you both though I know it will never heal. I love the quote you have on your page. He surely is in heaven.

:cowgirl: "For I know that my redeemer liveth, and He shall stand beside me later on." (Lucas in Home Ranch) :gunfightercowboy:

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Posted : 29/04/2020 9:18 am
Cowgirl
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I never getting a craving. Smoke smells terrible to me. It makes me wonder why I ever smoked.

"Keep your 'sites' on The Rifleman"
"The Rifleman hits the 'Mark' every week on abc."
A cowgirl's work is never done.

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Posted : 29/04/2020 11:15 am
Judy
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for you not to smoke when your son passed away I would say you have licked it. I pray every day is a little better for you both though I know it will never heal. I love the quote you have on your page. He surely is in heaven.
Thank you, Wildwest. I know the temptation to smoke will be with me for the rest of my life, but I also know I can overcome the temptations with God’s help. I appreciate your prayers. My son will always be with me, and his death will always be painful, but I thank the Lord every day for the years He gave me with my beautiful son.

The quote by TobyMac, touches my heart and fills me with love, knowing my boy is in heaven. TobyMac sings the 21 years, so soulfully: https://tinyurl.com/rakc5nd

There is a song that brings me to tears, when it is sung by Anne Murray. I have heard this song sung by other singers, but it is Anne Murray’s version that brings me to tears. Her voice moves me. The song is titled, Vaya Con Dios.

I did some research on this song, and found out that the words ‘Vaya Con Dios’ is a Spanish language phrase meant as a farewell. It literally translates to “go with God.” I asked one of my Latino friends about the meaning of the that phase. She said it is meant as a farewell, for someone who is going on a long journey. So I asked her if it could be used for someone who has passed away. She said that it is not usually used for that kind of situation, but it could be. I have decided that it is a perfect phase for my son, since he has literally gone with God.

Here is Vaya Con Dios, sung by Anne Murray: https://tinyurl.com/y8nvqqx9

In remembrance of my beloved son: "Vaya Con Dios" (Spanish, meaning "Go with God"), by Anne Murray ( https://tinyurl.com/y8nvqqx9 )“God has you in heaven, but I have you in my heart.” ~ by TobyMac ( https://tinyurl.com/rakc5nd )

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Posted : 29/04/2020 11:18 am
Judy
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I never getting a craving. Smoke smells terrible to me. It makes me wonder why I ever smoked.
Guess we all deal with our addictions in different ways. I may be wrong, but I think smoke smells good, because I really liked smoking.

In remembrance of my beloved son: "Vaya Con Dios" (Spanish, meaning "Go with God"), by Anne Murray ( https://tinyurl.com/y8nvqqx9 )“God has you in heaven, but I have you in my heart.” ~ by TobyMac ( https://tinyurl.com/rakc5nd )

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Posted : 29/04/2020 11:25 am
Howard
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Every now and then I dream I started to smoke again and was really upset with myself. Anybody else?

Nope.
Never.
I became one of those horrible people that hated smoke more than anything..
A strong 'give up' advocate.
And while at work at HP, as EHS coordinator,
created a no smoking program, and eventually a no smoking policy for the entity.
42 years for me, without..

Dan

Q: What kind of shoes do frogs wear?Open toad.

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Posted : 30/04/2020 7:42 am
wildwest
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My heartfelt praise to all of you who have stopped smoking. I never smoked but I watched my husband struggle with it. He quit 21 years before he die but I still feel it contributed to his lung problems.

Judy I listened to both songs you posted . they are so beautiful. Toby nails it as he has also felt the loss. when I lost my husband I was even mad at God for a while, even though he had a long life. My Pastor told me those feelings were normal. but I know I could not have gotten thru it without Him. I know your pain is much greater.

Prayers to you Judy and your family and also to Cowgirl who has had recent losses.

:cowgirl: "For I know that my redeemer liveth, and He shall stand beside me later on." (Lucas in Home Ranch) :gunfightercowboy:

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Posted : 30/04/2020 8:34 am
Judy
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Thank you for your kind words, Wildwest.

I am not a doctor, and I don’t know what your husband’s lung damage entailed. However, I did some research regarding lung damage and smoking cigarettes. The following sentence confirms what you have been feeling about smoking contributing to your husbands lung problems. (I am providing the link, in case you may want to read the full article. Highlighting is mine.):

Not all changes are reversible

The body is very good at repairing some of the damage to lung cells and tissues caused by smoking, but not all of the damage is reversible.

Source: https://tinyurl.com/yayctnxl

Thank you for listening to both of the songs I posted.

The thing I am drawn to with TobyMac’s song, is how he brings out such strong feelings of the pain of losing his son, and still thanks God for giving him 21 years with Trent. I can feel his pain, and the strong thankfulness to God for giving me my son.

I have always loved Anne Murray’s voice, and when she sings this song I feel extremely comforted, because it allows me the opportunity to feel as though I am saying farewell and to my son, who died alone in his sleep. The tears that I shed when I listen to Anne Murray singing Vaya Con Dios, come from my heart being broken and the tremendous joy I feel knowing he is with God in heaven. I agree with you, I could not have gotten through my son’s death without God.

I am so grateful for your prayers.

I also pray for Cowgirl and her family; it is never easy losing a loved one.

I can’t tell you how much my forum friends mean to me; may God bless all of you.

In remembrance of my beloved son: "Vaya Con Dios" (Spanish, meaning "Go with God"), by Anne Murray ( https://tinyurl.com/y8nvqqx9 )“God has you in heaven, but I have you in my heart.” ~ by TobyMac ( https://tinyurl.com/rakc5nd )

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Posted : 01/05/2020 10:58 am
wildwest
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Judy you have beautiful faith. thank you for the information. my husband smoked many years before he quit. he also worked in the construction field so I think that also contributed to his health as he was always around lead paint, chemicals, fumes, solvents etc. I am most thankful for the long marriage we had, He was also a man of faith.

I too am grateful for the forum here. The people are not only 'die hard' fans but truly kind and loving people. after my husband died and I had more time on my hands I watched TV more and really connected with The Rifleman and the love in the show. I could not miss a show. I found the forum and immersed myself in it and quickly made friends with Cowgirl. She was so welcoming.

We're all in this together.

:cowgirl: "For I know that my redeemer liveth, and He shall stand beside me later on." (Lucas in Home Ranch) :gunfightercowboy:

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Posted : 02/05/2020 8:59 am
Morgan
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flabirder I am sorry for your loss. My husband had smoked but had stopped for 25 years before he died. I still think they contributed to his death as well as the fact he worked construction so he was always in lead paint, mold and other fumes and solvents.

I recently saw the movie Dark Waters starring Mark Ruffalo and it is a true story about 'forever chemicals', Teflon, the Dupont company and the Cincinnati attorney who sued Dupont. It is a must see movie.

I just saw that a few weeks ago. I had seen the commercials but completely forgot about it after it came out.

People have absolutely no idea how many toxins are stuffed into EVERYTHING. My dad and I are hyper-sensitive to toxins and it is an everyday battle with everything from car exhaust to the neighbor’s laundry detergent to the napkins that were shelved beside the air fresheners at the grocery store.
I could go on and on about this topic but I will spare you. 😂
Read the labels, folks. If you can’t pronounce it, find out what it is!

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Posted : 02/08/2020 10:38 pm
wildwest
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Morgan I so agree with you there are toxins in everything. I was proud to be 'an extra' in the movie Dark Waters with Mark Ruffalo filmed in Cincinnati. he is an advocate for clean living. the story in Dark Waters is a true story about a local attorney Rob Bilott suing Dupont for dumping chemicals (teflon) (PFOA) into the water poisoning hundreds of people. it has been an ongoing 20 year lawsuit and he won the victims millions of dollars.

I got rid of all my teflon cookware and bakeware and got rid of any plastic that is not BPA free, like you said there are toxins in our bed sheets, carpeting, water, air, foods, rain repellant clothing, and the list goes on and on. the movie is a must see for anyone who is into that stuff. because its true and its with us all the time.

my husband worked in construction and was in chemicals and toxins all the time, that with cigarettes and also I believe Radon, very prevalent in our region contributed to his death.

:cowgirl: "For I know that my redeemer liveth, and He shall stand beside me later on." (Lucas in Home Ranch) :gunfightercowboy:

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Posted : 03/08/2020 2:32 pm
Judy
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Judy you have beautiful faith. thank you for the information. my husband smoked many years before he quit. he also worked in the construction field so I think that also contributed to his health as he was always around lead paint, chemicals, fumes, solvents etc. I am most thankful for the long marriage we had, He was also a man of faith.

I too am grateful for the forum here. The people are not only 'die hard' fans but truly kind and loving people. after my husband died and I had more time on my hands I watched TV more and really connected with The Rifleman and the love in the show. I could not miss a show. I found the forum and immersed myself in it and quickly made friends with Cowgirl. She was so welcoming.

We're all in this together.

I apologize for the delay in responding to your post.

Thank you, for the kind words regarding my faith. Although I miss my son terribly, any tears that I shed are from memories that are sweet and so wonderful. He truly was a gift from God. I know my boy is in heaven with Jesus, free from pain and suffering. I just can't be sad about that.

You're welcome for the info. Thank you for sharing some of your husband's life with us.

In remembrance of my beloved son: "Vaya Con Dios" (Spanish, meaning "Go with God"), by Anne Murray ( https://tinyurl.com/y8nvqqx9 )“God has you in heaven, but I have you in my heart.” ~ by TobyMac ( https://tinyurl.com/rakc5nd )

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Posted : 03/08/2020 6:06 pm
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